Friday, July 21. 2006Big Queer Gay Marriage Poll- What do you think? Like it or not queer marriage is everywhere in the news from married queer icons splitting up to state constitutional ammendments banning gay marriage so take a quick second and vote in our poll about what gay marriage should be called.Some say they don't mind same-sex couples having the same rights but marriage is for heteros only. Do you agree or disagree? Is it a nomenclature issue or something bigger? Is marriage a straight religious institution that gays should shun or is it about equal rights? Vote now and comment (poll is at the top of near right column). Let us know your thoughts. In the meantime here are some of the latest headlines on same-sex unions. Republicans & religious right vow to make gay marriage a wedge issue in mid-term elections Trackbacks
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The Gay Icon Split noted above only illustrates that the institution of marriage is not for the faint of heart, gay or straight. Sadly, we all (gay and straight) take it way too lightly. If it doesn't work, get a divorce. Maybe they shouldn't have been married to begin with. Yes, I'm anachronistic, but marriage (of any sort) is for life. Sad that we gay folk can screw it up just as much as the straight folk.
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2006-07-22 06:44
Ok... so I'm mostly nobody as Ralph Ellison so eloquently stated, "an invisible man..." No one knows me but damnit, my opinion matters so here goes: >whew< This amendment is a CROCK! Here I am, a Black Gay Republican (don't get it twisted, I'm a Republican not a conservative *ick*). Having typed that let me say my partner (yeah, he's a Dem) and I don't give a damn about marriage as an institution what we care about is marriage as contract. This stupid amendment (beyond all of the rhetoric about 'gay marriage') will mean the more then $10,000 we've spent to protect each other (power of attorneys, living wills, wills, life insurance policies, etc) may very well be MOOT! We did these things simply to protect each other in case one or the other of us have to be hospitalized or die. It means our house, the artwork, hell even the dogs, who are considered PROPERTY not family members in eyes of the law, may be up for grabs by the others family when one of us dies---REGARDLESS OF OUR STATED INTENTIONS! I had long hard conversations with each of my family members (more then 20-8 sisters/3 brothers, their older kids, my parents, etc) making it clear that if I am hospitalized they damn well have NO RIGHT to make a decision for me, their OPINION matters and that opinion would help my partner of a number of years make the decision. Seems easy right? NOT! (Sorry for babbling on). I don't have any local immediate family, what I do have are 2 great aunts and 4 or 5 2nd cousins (whom I don't particurarly care for) who will have the right to make my decision for me if this amendment passes and I am incapacitated (because they are considered family! This is oh so wrong! Ok, so let's get rid of the gay part of this. I have a sister, she and her boyfriend have been together for 18 years and never married... uh oh... SAME DISCRIMINATORY ACTIONS as apply to me... hmmm Oh yeah, they never did the "legal stuff" to protect each other but if she's hospitalized he will just say, "yeah I'm her husband" and that will be that...
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2006-07-26 08:10
Lawrence, thanks for the comment and sharing your personal story. The whole scenario you describe is infuriating. I recently saw the documentary, Tying the Knot (http://www.1049films.com/), a moving and powerful video that documents the struggle for gay marriage and inlcudes the horrendous consequences faced by the surviving partners of two different couples.
Regarding your other comment, yes, your opinions DO matter. I don't care what your party affiliation is, what color your skin is, if you agree or disagree with me or anyone else on Big Queer or elsewhere. The queer community is very diverese. We've got a wide range of ideas, opinions, thoughts, and interestes. We're not just in big cities and we're not just in the USA. While people try to point fingers and see us as a stereotype Big Queer is a place we can come together in all our wonderful diversity and agree, disagree, and be ourselves. aWe hope you and others no matter their political affiliation, skin color, where they are located in the world feel welcome here and will feel free to comment and join in on the discussion. Heck, even if you're not queer we welcome you as long as you're serving up honest, inteligent commentary and disucssion.
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2006-07-26 11:07
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