Yes the rumors are true and I have no reason to deny that I am among the many gay men that rushed, pledged and then became a college fraternity guy. I could go into details but I wouldn't want ruin any gay fraternity fantasies. So, before you start asking for more let me just say that I enjoyed my fraternity experience even though I didn't come out to my brothers until after college (yes they're fine about it).

The whole idea of coming out in a fraternity is fairly new and it's the topic of the new book Brotherhood : Gay Life in College Fraternities by Shane L. Windmeyer. As quoted on the Lambda 10 website, "Never before have we heard about the trials of rushing a fraternity openly gay or the reality of an intimate sexual relationship among brothers," explained Windmeyer. "Ten years ago that was unheard of or unspoken. In 'Brotherhood,' the writers share details about both experiences, along with the resulting triumphs or harms."

Windmeyer, is the author of Out on Fraternity Row and the founder of the Lambda 10 Project which deals with gay fraternity issues.